Before You Walk Down the Aisle

Before You Walk Down the Aisle These are some important subjects to talk about together!

SUBJECTS: Finances Children Family/Friends Miscellaneous Home

Even if this is not your first time getting married, you should go over the answers to these important issues now with your future Bride or Groom and come to an understanding. This is not all-inclusive. However, it does cover finances, family, relatives, children, blended families, holidays and so on. Be open and honest in your answers. Do not just say what you think your fiancé will want to hear! That misleading answer now will cause arguments and pain in the future when you’re true feelings about a matter come out.

BIG DECISION!
Congratulations, you've found Mr. or Ms. Right, fell in love and now the Big Day is right around the corner. If you're planning to say, "I do", save yourself some arguments later by talking about important issues now. One question could open the door to many discussions. This may help you to grow closer and to know each other better. This also allows you to easily address issues that you may have already made assumptions about, so this is good for clarity in a relationship.

WHY ARE WE GETTING MARRIED?

As a couple, what do we want out of this marriage? In what ways will we keep our relationship fresh?

Wrong Reasons to get Married:
Pregnancy, loneliness, convenience, financial security, escaping another relationship, wanting to get out of the family home, a man to support a family, a woman to raise his family, she’s pregnant so it’s “the right thing to do”, or you have been living together as a couple and each of your families is pressuring you to get married.

If you see yourself in any of the above reasons, this marriage is set up to fail before it even gets started. As depressing as that may sound we want you to be on solid ground as a couple before you say, "I do." We want you to be sure this is really what you want. We have found that some couples, after going over these questions were in love with the idea of the wedding and didn't really take into consideration the full commitments of marriage. To be deeply in love, completely committed to each other, with a desire to spend the rest of your lives together…that is a valid reason to get married!