Before You Walk Down the Aisle                  These are some important subjects to talk about together!   

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FAMILY AND FRIENDS

What values from your family do you want to incorporate into your marriage?
What part will family and friends play in your relationship?

What if your friends demand equal time with you since it is what "you have always done?"

We feel that you are no longer single to drop everything at the demands from your friends and they need to consider your needs as a family now. You can also ask your partner if it is ok for you go spend time with your friends. If this sounds like asking Mommy and Daddy's permission, I guarantee you it is not! You must now consider the needs of each other and not just your own desires. Respecting each other's opinions and feeling before making decisions without consulting each other will go a long way toward keeping your marriage healthy and respectful.

Holidays with Family
Where will you spend holidays? Who will decide this?
If each family pressures you to spend holidays with them will you be able to go to both family homes because it is close enough to do so? Or will you choose to have each family come to your house as a compromise? Can you allow yourself a holiday together as a new family without hurting your new in-laws by not showing up at their houses?

Quality Time Together
What are your expectations about how you will spend your free time?
Do you believe that we should be doing everything together?*

 Can we each pursue our own interest? Do you need time alone?
How would you feel if I want an evening with my friends now and then?
How will we make sure we have quality time together?